Simply rambling today …
One thing which always interests me, is how patterns repeat in families. This can be voluntarily or involuntarily, consciously or sub/unconsciously, noticeable or not noticeable.
The abused regularly becomes the abuser (albeit at times on different levels e.g. emotional abuse can manifest in physical abuse or vice versa)
Whose children [may or may not] then also becomes abused. Sexual abuse in families is one example. Somehow this keeps being repeated in families. It always fascinates me how sexual abuse gets repeated, does not matter how much the mother (as previous victim) watches out therefor, as too often the abused actually marries into a family where abuse is almost certain to happen again.
Girls who are abused by their fathers, who marry abusive husbands (once again, physical or emotional).
The “addiction gene”, again, can manifest in various ways; whether it be addiction to alcohol, drugs, nicotine, caffeine (or chocolate…)
Coping skills or lack thereof, is one thing that keeps popping up in families where problems occur.
Sometimes we have to wonder whether depression for example, is really only a matter of genetics or rather an [combined] issue where children are not taught/modelled required coping skills because the depressed parent did not possess such skills. We already know that people who suffer from some mental illnesses, lack certain coping skills (e.g. Beck or Ellis distortive cognitive beliefs).
So at times, it is rather the lack of the required coping skills which are carried down to the next generation, instead of a pure genetic disposition. But still, a pattern.
(Of course, if this was so simple therapy would have been so easy, and simply a matter of teaching people the correct skills – providing they want to be taught as well)
Then there are other patterns.
Referring to the Oscar Pistorius trial, Oscar lost his legs at a very early age. Now, later in life, his brother Carl stands the change to lose his legs also.
In the OP Trial, fire arms repeatedly feature in Oscar’s history.
In culpable homicide, I found it extremely interesting that both brothers ended up being charged with culpable homicide (referring to Carl’s case 2008, verdict 2013).
So I can’t help but wondering if this seeming “universal” pattern will be repeated: Carl got off culpable homicide.
Will Oscar, too?
One thing which always interests me, is how patterns repeat in families. This can be voluntarily or involuntarily, consciously or sub/unconsciously, noticeable or not noticeable.
The abused regularly becomes the abuser (albeit at times on different levels e.g. emotional abuse can manifest in physical abuse or vice versa)
Whose children [may or may not] then also becomes abused. Sexual abuse in families is one example. Somehow this keeps being repeated in families. It always fascinates me how sexual abuse gets repeated, does not matter how much the mother (as previous victim) watches out therefor, as too often the abused actually marries into a family where abuse is almost certain to happen again.
Girls who are abused by their fathers, who marry abusive husbands (once again, physical or emotional).
The “addiction gene”, again, can manifest in various ways; whether it be addiction to alcohol, drugs, nicotine, caffeine (or chocolate…)
Coping skills or lack thereof, is one thing that keeps popping up in families where problems occur.
Sometimes we have to wonder whether depression for example, is really only a matter of genetics or rather an [combined] issue where children are not taught/modelled required coping skills because the depressed parent did not possess such skills. We already know that people who suffer from some mental illnesses, lack certain coping skills (e.g. Beck or Ellis distortive cognitive beliefs).
So at times, it is rather the lack of the required coping skills which are carried down to the next generation, instead of a pure genetic disposition. But still, a pattern.
(Of course, if this was so simple therapy would have been so easy, and simply a matter of teaching people the correct skills – providing they want to be taught as well)
Then there are other patterns.
Referring to the Oscar Pistorius trial, Oscar lost his legs at a very early age. Now, later in life, his brother Carl stands the change to lose his legs also.
In the OP Trial, fire arms repeatedly feature in Oscar’s history.
In culpable homicide, I found it extremely interesting that both brothers ended up being charged with culpable homicide (referring to Carl’s case 2008, verdict 2013).
So I can’t help but wondering if this seeming “universal” pattern will be repeated: Carl got off culpable homicide.
Will Oscar, too?
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