I like weird things. No wonder I like watching vampire and werewolf or other strange things on TV.
And I like, especially, weird friends. Those are the ones who pushes social boundaries even I get scared of. The ones providing excitement. The ones with rings through their noses….or other places... (very small examples…) or doing other things I will NEVER even consider mentioning on Internet.
Sometimes they make me feel normal (Lol) other times (or jealous) they simply make life interesting. And sometimes, I learn valuable life-lessons from them.
All my friends – even the “normal” ones - sometimes they aren’t even here, but I know they’re still a friend and simply waiting for me to pick up the phone or barging in in all my mundane glamour (pick up on that discrepancy if you can).
We don’t speak too often. But there is something that binds us together.
When I need help or support, they will be there (Unless busy with a tattoo or something worse - sorry!!) Or very normal! - I presume.
Then we pick up where we left off previously. And they live in my heart, daily, even if we don’t speak regularly.
I have a lot of friends, so different from each other. I am struggling to “classify” them (sorry guys, sometimes [too often and regularly] I need to sort out my own brain) But at the same time I wonder why I even should try to.
Purpose? Because you are still friends!
Can anyone give me a definition of “unwanted” or “weird” friends? “Close” or “unclose” friends”? People I simply know? Professional friends? People I pass by and who treat me as if we are close friends? “Friends” who actually are simply service providers? Networking friends?” People I barely know but who has a special place in my heart?
How many types of friends can there be? What do we actually call them? What is the function of each type of friend?
And, why do we need them…which one, for what?
(Confucious says…)
No-one is really able to provide such a wording or even list, when it boils down to describing friends (Well, I did get a couple of hints to go and watch “FRIENDS” rerun on DSTV. Not that, that; will necessarily give me any indication of what is happening in your/my own life. FRIENDS seems to be everyone aspire to, but no-one ever reaches).
I want my friend/s to bring chicken soup when I am sick. And when that friend lives 10 000 km away, I want to get at least, an sms to say hey, I think of you! That is chicken soup after all, for the soul (But really, I want actual chicken soup, from someone I care about...)
I want my friends to be honest. I WANT TO have the opportunity to get seriously up in arms when I hear something I don’t’ want to hear from someone I love. Because I know it comes from a good place. Even for my own good. Your pants don’t fit… you need a haircut!! (Coming from FB - who cares? commercial social interaction)
A good friend would allow me to be seriously p/d off and fight and even spit, because we know, afterward the relationship is still there.
I don’t expect my friends to place regular pics or messages on FB. Let’s face it, 80% of the people we know on FB, we have never even met. So what the heck?
And you know what? Those links on FB... I am starting to wonder how much of a friend those FB friends can be. If they don’t complain or criticise – all they do is complimenting! In other words - noe offer me the opportunity for growth which ever way?
Really…. It’s not as if anyone of them will hold my hand while I am grasping for the ventilator on a hospital bed.
What I want, is REAL friends. People I can touch, hug, love; people who can listen to what I say, even if what I say, does not make sense. That person, who will be there when I have problems. That person who will hold back my hair when I vomit over the ablution facilities. That’s what I want. Someone who will still love me in the worst of circumstances and when I look like hell itself.
So whether you are considered weird, normal – I don’t care. As long as you are considered “my friend” I don’ t care about any so-called “tags from your past, present or future.
And I don't really kick-boot FB. But be sure you can differentiate between FB so-called friendships - and REAL ones.
As for me? I am the crappy friend. I will probably neglect to call you regularly. I might forget your birthday. Regularly. Trust me to forget your children’s birthdays, special days, or maybe special procedures. I will forget rugby days, or the opening day of your new shop. I might forget your favorite color. I too often, will not visit. I will probably not send flowers. Or cards. My house will be in a mess when you come to visit, because I probably forgot to get a cleaner. Trust me to forget all special things and then to run around like a chicken without head, trying to make it up to you.
What you can trust is – I will be thinking of you regularly. Whether you are trying a new tattoo, or whether a catering recipe. Or simply getting new bedding for your bedroom. I will even try to copy the recipe you try on your mother-in-law, but forget copying your tattoo!!
And, I will hold your hand when you are connected to the ventilator in hospital….
Providing you don’t notify me via FB and if I can get there!!
Each friend and/or relationship is as individual and as confusing as this blog ( I presume) ....half of the "labels" are not even developed yet...
So if you forgive the questions -
What is your idea of actual friendship? I am starting to consider whether real life friendships is not becoming outdated, whether that which I long for, is not something which belongs to a previous era....am I becoming a dinasaurus of relationships? Am I asking too much? Am I also becoming, "weird" when we speak about such things? should we limit friendships to those we think is "acceptable? And so much more!
And I like, especially, weird friends. Those are the ones who pushes social boundaries even I get scared of. The ones providing excitement. The ones with rings through their noses….or other places... (very small examples…) or doing other things I will NEVER even consider mentioning on Internet.
Sometimes they make me feel normal (Lol) other times (or jealous) they simply make life interesting. And sometimes, I learn valuable life-lessons from them.
All my friends – even the “normal” ones - sometimes they aren’t even here, but I know they’re still a friend and simply waiting for me to pick up the phone or barging in in all my mundane glamour (pick up on that discrepancy if you can).
We don’t speak too often. But there is something that binds us together.
When I need help or support, they will be there (Unless busy with a tattoo or something worse - sorry!!) Or very normal! - I presume.
Then we pick up where we left off previously. And they live in my heart, daily, even if we don’t speak regularly.
I have a lot of friends, so different from each other. I am struggling to “classify” them (sorry guys, sometimes [too often and regularly] I need to sort out my own brain) But at the same time I wonder why I even should try to.
Purpose? Because you are still friends!
Can anyone give me a definition of “unwanted” or “weird” friends? “Close” or “unclose” friends”? People I simply know? Professional friends? People I pass by and who treat me as if we are close friends? “Friends” who actually are simply service providers? Networking friends?” People I barely know but who has a special place in my heart?
How many types of friends can there be? What do we actually call them? What is the function of each type of friend?
And, why do we need them…which one, for what?
(Confucious says…)
No-one is really able to provide such a wording or even list, when it boils down to describing friends (Well, I did get a couple of hints to go and watch “FRIENDS” rerun on DSTV. Not that, that; will necessarily give me any indication of what is happening in your/my own life. FRIENDS seems to be everyone aspire to, but no-one ever reaches).
I want my friend/s to bring chicken soup when I am sick. And when that friend lives 10 000 km away, I want to get at least, an sms to say hey, I think of you! That is chicken soup after all, for the soul (But really, I want actual chicken soup, from someone I care about...)
I want my friends to be honest. I WANT TO have the opportunity to get seriously up in arms when I hear something I don’t’ want to hear from someone I love. Because I know it comes from a good place. Even for my own good. Your pants don’t fit… you need a haircut!! (Coming from FB - who cares? commercial social interaction)
A good friend would allow me to be seriously p/d off and fight and even spit, because we know, afterward the relationship is still there.
I don’t expect my friends to place regular pics or messages on FB. Let’s face it, 80% of the people we know on FB, we have never even met. So what the heck?
And you know what? Those links on FB... I am starting to wonder how much of a friend those FB friends can be. If they don’t complain or criticise – all they do is complimenting! In other words - noe offer me the opportunity for growth which ever way?
Really…. It’s not as if anyone of them will hold my hand while I am grasping for the ventilator on a hospital bed.
What I want, is REAL friends. People I can touch, hug, love; people who can listen to what I say, even if what I say, does not make sense. That person, who will be there when I have problems. That person who will hold back my hair when I vomit over the ablution facilities. That’s what I want. Someone who will still love me in the worst of circumstances and when I look like hell itself.
So whether you are considered weird, normal – I don’t care. As long as you are considered “my friend” I don’ t care about any so-called “tags from your past, present or future.
And I don't really kick-boot FB. But be sure you can differentiate between FB so-called friendships - and REAL ones.
As for me? I am the crappy friend. I will probably neglect to call you regularly. I might forget your birthday. Regularly. Trust me to forget your children’s birthdays, special days, or maybe special procedures. I will forget rugby days, or the opening day of your new shop. I might forget your favorite color. I too often, will not visit. I will probably not send flowers. Or cards. My house will be in a mess when you come to visit, because I probably forgot to get a cleaner. Trust me to forget all special things and then to run around like a chicken without head, trying to make it up to you.
What you can trust is – I will be thinking of you regularly. Whether you are trying a new tattoo, or whether a catering recipe. Or simply getting new bedding for your bedroom. I will even try to copy the recipe you try on your mother-in-law, but forget copying your tattoo!!
And, I will hold your hand when you are connected to the ventilator in hospital….
Providing you don’t notify me via FB and if I can get there!!
Each friend and/or relationship is as individual and as confusing as this blog ( I presume) ....half of the "labels" are not even developed yet...
So if you forgive the questions -
What is your idea of actual friendship? I am starting to consider whether real life friendships is not becoming outdated, whether that which I long for, is not something which belongs to a previous era....am I becoming a dinasaurus of relationships? Am I asking too much? Am I also becoming, "weird" when we speak about such things? should we limit friendships to those we think is "acceptable? And so much more!
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